What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
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What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Pamela
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Sunday, October 2nd, 2011 @ 12:26
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My daughter is dating someone my husband and I do NOT like. He is a bad boy. I am not going to go into all the details but we really REALLY have bad feelings on this. My daughter just graduated from college, has a job, is supporting herself, and living with one of our other daughters. She is a sweet girl, but when it comes to life and the experiences that go along with it, she has the attitude of being "a free spirit" and all "is good with the world." She "TRUST" everyone.
We have had many conversations on this. Her siblings also have tried to talk to her. I don't want to push her away, but we really aren't getting good vibes on this guy and I am laying awake worrying. Suggestions? Solutions? HELP. I really need some feedback on this. PLEASE.
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: ArmyWife/Pa
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Monday, October 3rd, 2011 @ 09:17
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Okay so this is just ME.... I would do this.... how well do you know this guy? Can you sit down with him and talk to him yourself and find out more about him? Sometimes "bad boys" just need to know there is someone out there that expects more of them ya know?
If you cant do this then unfortunately its a case of waiting for her to open her own eyes. She is an "adult" now and will have to start learning from her own mistakes.
Now I know you didnt give any details but if we are talking about something that is illegal or can get her in trouble too then I would definitely step in and make my feelings known to her and to her boyfriend. If he is abusive.... game on and all bets off...... I would take action.
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Pamela
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Monday, October 3rd, 2011 @ 21:18
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We do not know him at all. She and I have always been close but I feel that a wedge is between us right now. I am frightened by what can happen. We just found out he is ten years older than her.
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Brenda
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Thursday, November 3rd, 2011 @ 21:55
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Have you talked to this guy? You must have because you have not good feelings for him. You stated that she stays with her sister. Did she talked to her? She knows more about whats going on. How your other daughter feels about him. Do some detective work. Get his full name, lic plate number or other any information. You cannot go against this guy because this will make her get closer to him. I am a parent. If you get those feeling, this guy is not right. Good Luck
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Patti
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Saturday, November 5th, 2011 @ 15:59
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to be honest there is not much you can do but keep the door open to her to come to you if she needs too. You can sit her down and let her know your feelings/fears and let her know that though you object to it she is grown and the choice is hers. Like my son and we all do, we choose to learn the hard way instead of listening to those who have gone thru it. By letting her know the door is open and your ears are open you keep that line of communication there for her if she needs it. You will trust you more to come to you if things start to go bad. If you try to tell her what to do all you will do is push her more into his arms and if it goes bad she will feel she cannot come to you. God bless you all and I pray she sees before it is to late.
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Pamela
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Sunday, November 6th, 2011 @ 10:20
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Good points Patti. I really want to do what you are saying. I am worried. I do not want to push her away. On another note associated with this, this man I should say is associated with the band "GWAR" (I think that is the name)heavy metal band. It was in the news that a lead star died on the tour bus, I believe Thursday evening. I read all about it in our local paper but did not mention it to my daughter. My daughters friend, or who she thinks may be " a soul mate" is not a band member but is traveling with them working. I looked this band up and read up on them and am worried even more. They are heavy metal and disqusting in what they do. Absolutely. DISGUSTING. And he is associated with the.
I have not discussed this with her, but with her sister I did. Apparently the band is going to stay on tour and for that I am grateful. It means he will be gone even longer and the longer he is away, the more I pray she will wise up and head another direction. A mother can only pray and hope.
Thank you ladies for input. I welcome it all. Keep it coming. I pray daily she goes another direction. Please, please, please.
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RE: What to do with a daughter and a BAD BOY.
Posted by: Navy Wife
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Tuesday, November 8th, 2011 @ 05:54
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GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELINGS.
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